Do you struggle with the simplicity and beauty of “no”?
Many of us find uttering the word “no” impossible. What is it about this tiny, two-letter word, that fills us with such dread? It’s easy enough to write. It’s easier still to say. Yet, when we need to speak it, when we should bring this marvel of language into conversation, we often hesitate. Why? Is it possible we’re not thinking about the word itself, but rather the implications of invoking it, about what happens if we deny a request?
If we’re not thinking about what we want, what we need in the moment, what’s best for us, right then, right there, we’re anticipating future outcomes. Or maybe we’re reliving a prior experience where there were consequences for looking out for ourselves. Who’d want to do that? Who’d want to suffer the agony of whatever may come when we can circumvent the issue by acquiescing? The problem is when we refuse to use the word, we’re moved from the here and now. We’ve stopped listening to ourselves.
Listen to yourself.
Don’t reject the power of “no.” Don’t take on tasks you have neither the interest in nor capacity for. Don’t suffer the consequences of “yes.”
If you’re one of the people who can’t say the word “no,” practice makes perfect. Start when you’re alone. Speak the word. Say it aloud. Say it often. Say it in front of the mirror. Say it like you mean it.
Because you do.
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